Tuesday, March 20, 2012

It's Hard

I am reading Kisses From Katie and recently read some of her words on adoption. Her thoughts are so beautiful and true, I want to share some with you. Through reading her book, I thought about highlighting admirable or fascinating quotes, but I am glad I chose not to, because her entire book would be colored in lemon yellow.

Adoption is wonderful and beautiful and the greatest blessing I have ever experienced. Adoption is also difficult and painful. Adoption is a beautiful picture of redemption. It is the Gospel in my living room. And sometimes, it's just hard.

As a parent, it's hard not to know when your daughter took her first steps or what her first word was or what she looked like in kindergarten. It's hard not to know where she slept and whose shoulder she cried on and what the scar on her eyebrow is from. It's hard to know that for ten years yours was not the shoulder she cried on and you were not the mommy she hugged.

As a child, it's hard to remember your biological parents' death, no matter how much you love your new mom. It's hard to have your mom be a different color than you because inevitably people are going to ask why. It's hard that your mom wasn't there for all the times you had no dinner and all the times you were sick and all the times you needed help with your homework. It's hard when you have to make up your birthday. It's hard when you can't understand the concept of being a family forever yet, because your first family wasn't forever.

Adoption is a redemptive response to tragedy that happens in this broken world. And every single day, it is worth it, because adoption is God's heart. His Word says, "In love He predestined us to be adopted as His sons through Jesus Christ, in accordance with His pleasure and will." (Ephesians 1:5). He sets the lonely in families (Psalm 68:6). The first word that appears when I look up adoption in the dictionary is "acceptance." God accepts me, adores me even, just as I am. And He wants me to accept those without families into my own. Adoption is the reason I can come before God's throne and beg Him for mercy, because He predestined me to be adopted as His child through Jesus Christ, in accordance with His pleasure and will--to the praise of His glorious grace.

My family, adopting these children, it is not optional. It is not my good deed for the day; it is not what I am doing to "help out these poor kids." I adopt because God commands me to care for the orphans and the widows in their distress. I adopt because Jesus says that to whom much is given, much will be demanded (Luke 12:48) and because whoever finds his life will lose it but whoever loses his life for His sake will find it (Matthew 10:39).


  1. LOVED reading her book! It was amazing and pretty much made me want to move to Africa like yesterday. :)

  2. Wow, that is so touching and it is so hard for the parent and child. Thinking of you guys!

  3. So difficult... and so worthwhile. Thinking of you.

  4. I am reading that book now! Praying as you wait...

  5. I LOVED her book. I remember reading this passage. She speaks so beautifully and makes it so easy to understand. She, like you, is an amazing woman.

  6. I'm reading it too! And I'll look forward to reading your thoughts on prayer....I'm still studying!:)